Sorry Maine, I don’t give a fuck

So Maine didn’t get marriage, yeah sucks to be Maine. As for me, I don’t give a flying fuck.

I understand that marriage is an important issue because of all the legal and civil benefits attached to it. Though my personal feelings are wholly disinterested, even disgusted, by the “LGBT” movement’s preoccupation with marriage, I am not outside recognizing the benefits of legalizing queer marriage. What I want to know is, if this “marriage issue” is so important why are people more interested in fixing it for others but not themselves? Ohio has TWO DOMA amendments, TWO, because one wasn’t enough. But no, yeah, you take care of Maine. They need more help than we do.

I agree that these rallies on behalf of California and Maine could be part of a bigger movement to promote visibility. But I don’t know how folks in Ohio are going to prove anything by stating they won’t stand for marriage inequality in Maine when they must not mind marriage inequality in Ohio.  I think the main reason is this: Everyone else is doing it. People love to be part of something bigger, so why not get on board to support other states and have no idea what is going on in your own. Its not like you live there or anything. It’s easier to complain about what’s going on in someone else’s yard than to take a long hard look at what your own place. Every day I see listserv and blog posts by people who live in Ohio or the Midwest but all they talk about is the east or west coast and what we can do to “help them.” Fuck that shit, bitches are blue states with high-income non-profits and god-damn celebrities. Fuckers can help themselves. Better yet, fuckers can help me. I have a vet bill to pay and radical activism doesn’t cut me any checks.

I’ve had people tell me that we need to focus on the easy parts first, keep in line so we don’t scare folks off. Well, I’m not gonna get any less scary after you pass your legislation that doesn’t have me in it and Ohio isn’t gonna get any easier once your state is in it.  I try not hate on folks who are good hearted and want to work for change, even if its not how I would do it. However, I can’t help being opinionated about people who tell me I’m not a “team player” and they themselves do absolutely nothing.

NEWS FLASH: Posting a facebook event is not the end all be all of change. Shocking, I know.

Don’t judge me and my work when all you have is a motherfucking facebook account. If you want to complain, that is not my problem. Go update your status about it. Your HRC fan page friends will love it.

x-posted AmplifyYourVoice.org

5 comments

  • I live on the east coast with ties to Maine. The Maine vote makes me angry. BUT that anger does nothing if it’s not turned directly to the barriers where we each live, work and love. We’re all in this together, but equality begins at home!

  • legit, man.

  • Jac have I ever told you how much I fucking love you? You say what needs saying!

  • Although I get what you’re saying, I think as time goes on LGBQTA folks are just getting more fed up and “acting up”. I think as time goes on people are going to become more radical as they are tired of putting up with the lack of progress.

    Maybe people just never thought Ohio would pass those stupid laws, and underestimated the strength of the right hand conservatives. Now they feel the only way to get back is to help other states to make it almost national, requiring a Federal law to protect our rights as human beings.

    Thanks for all you do!

    Take care!
    Ken

  • Whatever Missouri’s laws are, I can’t get married, gay or straight here, purely because I’m trans. It’s considered “gay marriage” no matter who I marry, since I’ve “been both sexes” or some bullshit.

    We don’t even have the right to straight marriage in some states.

    What I don’t get is why we aren’t going for non-discrimination, which seems to be less controversial for religious people. Yes, we’re apparently going to have EMPLOYMENT non-discrimination, but what about for housing and other necessities?

    Blah.

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